If you are going through a divorce or separated from your spouse during the holiday season, this can be a difficult time of year for you. It is never easy to feel alone, and memories of happier years might add to the strain. At the law office of Mark B. Arthur, PC, we understand this can be heartbreaking for you and other Virginia residents who are going through the same thing.

While a divorce might not be pleasant to endure this time of year, there is no reason you should be miserable. The Huffington Post has provided numerous tips for lifting your spirits during a divorce or separation over the holidays.

  • Make sure to get out, instead of staying in. Gloomy weather and sad circumstances may heighten depression. Walking the dog, hitting the gym or meeting friends for coffee can boost your mood.
  • Take a break. It is OK to tell your attorney that would like to resume divorce negotiations after the holidays.
  • If you are feeling overwhelmed, have your children do the decorating and gift-wrapping. This serves the double benefit of letting them do something fun and getting the divorce out of their minds.
  • If holiday stress is too much, ask someone to take the kids for an afternoon or go Christmas shopping with you. Also, do not be afraid to say no when others place too many demands on you.
  • Do something positive. If you have the means, give back by buying food or gifts for a family in need or by volunteering.
  • Know when you need help. If the negative feelings become too much, reach out to a counselor or call a hotline. Avoid feeling like you have to do it all on your own.

This is a hard time of year for many who are going through a divorce, but like all difficult periods, it is not permanent. Our family law page explains more about the emotional impact of divorce.